I read you poetry in bed
and let you lick peach juice off my chin
And in the morning we pull our clothes on
don’t make the bed
and leave separately
I did this for awhile
because I thought it’d be worth
and that I’d feel
and older if I kept
fooling men into thinking I was
But then he comes over
sets a six pack on my desk
and sits opposite me
in my too-small room
I am very upset already
I swallowed a confession of love
three minutes before he
knocked at my door
and I do not
know where to set it down
I tell him
My breath shakes as he
cracks open a beer
slaps me with an all-teeth smile
and tells me about seeing skin
in the back of his car
looks at me
wanting a high-five or
a nod of approval
he wants me to
swallow my discomfort
and offer my own story
so I do
I try to shape myself into a
Into a group of men laughing
about bodies that are not their own
I try to wear my “number” with pride
but I am stuttering and turning red
halfway through the story
I force myself to finish it anyway-
like I always have-
forcing myself into ideas and people
I did not want to be
Forcing myself to keep still and enjoy it
Forcing myself to try it “for the experience”
And after he does not laugh
He does not congratulate me
He sips his beer, looks away,
Charts from OKCupid, showing how straight women and men rate each other based on ages. For women, the men they find most attractive are roughly their own age. For men, the women they find most attractive are roughly the same age - 20 to 23 - regardless of the age of the man. (538)
Good fucking Christ.
men are shit
daily reminder that men are fucking gross, as if you need one
FIRST OF ALL NO ONE HAS VIRTUALLY ANY CONTROL OVER WHO THEY FIND ATTRACTIVE
BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY
THERE’S THIS THING THAT FUCKING HAPPENED CALLED FUCKING EVOLUTION. WHICH YOU SHITSTAINS SHOULD KNOW ABOUT IF YOUVE TAKEN A SINGLE DAY OF SCIENCE CLASS.
EVOLUTION SHAPED EVERY SINGLE ONE OF OUR CURRENT SEXUAL BEHAVIORS. ITS ONLY JOB WAS TO MAKE SURE THAT OUR ANCESTORS HAD THE MOST SUITABLE TRAITS TO RAISE LOTS OF HEALTHY BABIES.
WHAT DID THAT MEAN FOR WOMEN?? WELL LET ME TELL YOU THAT BABIES ARE A SHITLOAD OF WORK. SO CAVEWOMEN HAD TO FIND A MATE THAT WAS NOT ONLY GENETICALLY SUITABLE BUT ALSO SEEMED LIKE HE WOULD STICK AROUND AND TAKE CARE OF THE FUCKING BABY. A REAL MATURE TRUSTWORTHY KINDA GUY. I.E., SOMEONE HER OWN AGE PROBABLY.
AND MEN???? WELL, SHIT, ALL THEY NEEDED TO DO WAS MAKE SURE THEIR SPERM WENT TOWARDS MAKING A HEALTHY ASS BABY. YOU KNOW WHO USUALLY GIVES BIRTH TO HEALTHY BABIES? YOUNG WOMEN. AS WOMEN AGE THE RISK OF NATURAL GENETIC DEFECTS INCREASES EXPONENTIALLY.
MEN BEING ATTRACTED TO YOUNG WOMEN IS NOT A CHOICE ON THEIR PART, AND IT IS NOT “DISGUSTING” OR EVIDENCE THAT MEN ARE “SHIT”. IT IS A BIOLOGICALLY, EVOLUTIONARILY ENCODED TRAIT. AND FURTHERMORE, BEING ATTRACTED TO YOUNG WOMEN IS NOT THE SAME THING AS CHASING AFTER OR HARRASSING THEM. THIS CHART SAYS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT MORAL CHARACTER.
FUCKING SHIT, I AM A YOUNG LESBIAN. IF ANYTHING I SHOULD FEEL THE MOST VICTIMIZED BY THIS CHART.
BUT I DON’T. BECAUSE I UNDERSTAND FUCKING SCIENCE. GOODBYE
Look at that some motherfucking logic up in this bitch, finally.
While the argument for a biological imperative in attraction is often made and makes sense, something has to be said for the social conditioning and shaping in attraction.
"Beautiful women" are often categorized as blond, wide eyed and petite - all indicators of youth (e.g. playing on biological queues), but that is also what is so often reproduced and presented in media and popular culture.
So really, it feels like it is both. There are these biological indicators, but male patriarchy makes it so they are used as an excuse to continually propagate a narrative of female beauty that is very white, very fatphobic and very problematic.